Here you'll find a collection of posts about the process of what it takes to rebuild trust and connection after betrayal from sexual addiction. Katie Kies, Co-founder of Rewire4Succes, writes compelling lessons drawing from personal experiences in her own marriage, years walking alongside women and couples doing this work, and over 10,000 hours of research and partnership with experts in neuroscience, addiction, trauma, and relationships, .
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Katie Kies Published on: 07/11/2026There are certain problems in this journey that don't feel like problems. They feel like walls. Massive. Immovable. Load-bearing. The kind you hit and think... there's no way through this.
Katie KiesHe's the one who did it, and somehow you're the one apologizing. Here's what's really happening when he turns himself into the wounded one, and the one question that tells you whether he'll ever change.
Katie KiesWhen you hear “it's not personal,” you hear, “This shouldn't hurt you.” And that is where “it's not personal” becomes deeply personal.
Katie KiesHow do you set boundaries that actually match where he's at, ones that protect you and give you real data for your own decisions instead of another ultimatum you're scared to follow through on?
Katie KiesTrust after betrayal isn’t rebuilt all at once, it happens in layers, and understanding which layer is missing can change everything about how you move forward.